40+ and Fabulous Moving Foward, Fierce, Focused and Full of Life by Sondra Wright

Moving forward fierce, focused and full of life!

40+ and Fabulous Moving Foward, Fierce, Focused and Full of Life by Sondra Wright - Moving forward fierce, focused and full of life!

An Unexpected Surprise: 56, Grandmother, and Pregnant – OH MY!

6-23I’ve been reading a lot lately about later-life pregnancy and the fact that many women today are waiting until their late 30s and early 40s to have their first child. The media loves stories of over-40 celebrity moms like Halle Berry, who became pregnant for the first time at 41 and gave birth to her second child at 47; John Travolta’s wife, Kelly Preston, who was pregnant with their third child at the age of 47; and Geena Davis, who had her first child at 46 and two years later, gave birth to twins! These women seem to defy biology as medical science tells us the chances of getting pregnant decrease with age and the probability of a woman conceiving in midlife is slim to impossible. I’ve even heard Dr. Joshua Klein, medical director of Reproductive Medicine Associates of New York-Brooklyn, refer to a woman’s ability to conceive naturally in her mid-40s as “nearly miraculous.”

Well, hold on Dr. Klein, because miracles do happen, and this story of pregnant grandparents in High Point, NC, is indeed miraculous.

When my longtime friend Sara Harper phoned me with the jaw-dropping news, I was happy not to be in public because my mouth literally hung open. My reaction was the same as it had been for Sara when grandparents Sally and Charles Brown, members of a support group of relatives who are raising relatives’ children, stopped at her home recently to share their good news.

The Browns, ages 56 and 65 respectively, are the adoptive parents of three children, ages 7, 9, and 14. One is their biological grandchild, whom they’ve raised since birth.

“After a miscarriage 10 years ago, we gave up on trying to have children, and that was when we decided to adopt,” said Sally.

Sally received the news during her yearly physical exam, after explaining to her doctor she was noticing some changes in her body. She admits to having a good cry at first, but is happy and glowing after the initial shock, and believes without a doubt, “God is in control.”  Sally, an ordained minister who loves to fish, said she dreamt one night about catching a big fish and began to call around the next day to see who was pregnant. It never for a moment occurred to Sally it might be her.

Sally works in the Guilford County Schools Special Needs Department. Her husband, Charles, is employed with Flowers Bakery in Jamestown, NC, and has not stopped smiling since the news. As a matter of fact, unbeknownst to Sally, Charles said he had been praying for this miracle.


For the Perfect Gift this Season, Unwrap the Gift of You

We live day in and day out constantly bombarded with unsettling news. Is Herman Cain in or out? Is Eddie Long’s divorce off or on?  Is unemployment up or down? Is Newt Gingrich gaining ground? Is a pregnant Kourtney Kardashian “shocked” or not?  Never mind the health, financial and family issues in our own worlds. It’s a wonderful life, right?

So how do we encourage the hope that this season is intended to inspire as well as find a little piece of magical hope for ourselves? How do we make ourselves joyous enough to survive this season of joy? My advice is to take time to take pleasure in the things you know you can depend on – whether it’s time spent with a child, whipping up your favorite sugar cookie recipe, indulging in a yummy seasonal treat, a casual stroll through your local botanical gardens, or stealing an extra hours sleep on a chilly weekend morning.

Whatever happens there is one thing that is certain; no matter how insane or stressful this month becomes; no matter how many get together you attend; no matter how tall the tree, elaborate the décor, or sumptuous the hor dourves, some of the most cherished and significant memories of this holiday season will be the moments you spend in the comfort of home and the closeness of those you love.

It doesn’t matter if you run from store to store chasing the elusive “perfect” gift. What matters is that which you give is given in love. Because at the end of the day, there is no greater gift that to spend the next several days ahead with the people you love, who fill your heart to overflow and make you laugh to tears. The gift of time will leave you – and them, with a holiday to remember.

And the Grinch, with his Grinch-feet ice cold in the snow, stood puzzling and puzzling, how could it be so?  It came without ribbons.  It came without tags.  It came without packages, boxes or bags.  And he puzzled and puzzled ’till his puzzler was sore.  Then the Grinch thought of something he hadn’t before.  What if Christmas, he thought, doesn’t come from a store?  What if Christmas, perhaps, means a little bit more?  ~Theodor Seuss Geisel