Cougars beware. As more and more boomers and women over 40 are embracing the cougar woman stereotype, we need to interrupt your predatory stalk for a word of caution. The cubs are on the prowl and have you on their radar as easy prey. So read up, be wise, and know that you’re worth way more than just another notch in his belt and a story to brag about at the bar.
I watched an entertaining yet very concerning episode of Judge Alex this week; 39 year old Mr. Pettus (aka, the Plaintiff) came to court seeking restitution for a loan to his former lover, 59 year old Ms. Blackmond (aka, the defendant). I cringed as Mr. Pettus testified that he and Ms. Blackmond had met on a chat line and “hooked up” the first night. Ladies, this is not the 70’s Sexual Revolution, Part II. A two headed monster has joined your casual sexcapades. His name is HIV/AIDS and he is infecting women over 50 at an alarming rate.
My interest was peaked as Mr. Pettus went on to testify that soon into the relationship Ms. Blackmond began to ask for financial assistance; $759.60 for her utility bill, $126.39 for an alternator, $95 for tires, and $70 for a mechanic, all which he loaned to her.
Ms. Blackmond agreed she owed the money and says the relationship fell apart because Mr. Pettus was controlling and tried to keep tabs on her, “I ain’t letting no man – young, middle-aged, or old – control me!” She stated that soon after the relationship ended, her sister learned that Mr. Pettus was a married man with children.
When Judge Alex asked Mr. Pettus about his marriage, Mr. Pettus stated that while not divorced, he and his wife had been separated for many years, and that he does have a girlfriend. Further probing by the judge revealed that Mr. Pettus was not only involved with this particular girlfriend now, but also during his relationship with Ms. Blackmond, and neither woman had known about the other.
Now pay close attention and read very carefully the next two questions and answers between Judge Alex and Mr. Pettus.
Judge Alex – “Mr. Pettus, were you in love with Ms. Blackmond.”
Mr. Pettus – “No.”
Judge Alex – “What kind of relationship did you have with her?”
Mr. Pettus – “It should have been a hit it, quit it, and don’t babysit it!”
…a Hit it! Quit it! And don’t babysit it! And as twisted as it is, in his complaint Mr. Pettus writes, “A part of me wants to get back with Mary (Ms. Blackmond), but I want my money.”
I can’t take anymore Ms. Blackmond, pay the man! Judgment for the Plaintiff!!
Photo Credit: Eur ThisNThat “No Such Thing As A Cougar“