40+ and Fabulous Moving Foward, Fierce, Focused and Full of Life by Sondra Wright

Moving forward fierce, focused and full of life!

40+ and Fabulous Moving Foward, Fierce, Focused and Full of Life by Sondra Wright - Moving forward fierce, focused and full of life!

A Note From a Reader

I woke up this morning to the greatest gift; a note from a reader expressing what 40+ and Fabulous has meant to her…

“Thank you so much for writing 40+ and Fabulous. I just finished reading the book…and in doing so, rejuvenated the JOY of being over 40!

The thought of turning 40 was REALLY tough for me. No Children, Single and 70 lbs overweight? With the statistic that a woman over 40 had a better chance of being struck by lightning looming in my brain (LOL..funny now but I wasn’t laughing then!), along with all the over 40 stereotypical nonsense, I decided to do something about my weight and self out look.

Well, I lost the 70 lbs, did a ton of things to improve my health and over all self esteem! I have been working so much and so hard lately that I had forgotten to embrace life in my 40’s and beyond!

I love having the book, the stories of other women to remind me to ENJOY ME….at every age!”  ~ A. Hall

Thank you Ms. Hall. What a tremendous blessing it is, to know that I’m making a difference.

“What we have done for ourselves alone dies with us; what we have done for others and the world remains and is immortal. ” ~Albert Pike


Grandparents Raising Grandchildren

Grandparents Raising Grandchildren, Lost in the Bureaucracy

Substance abuse, neglect, abandonment, incarceration – these are just a handful of factors that can contribute to a child’s placement in the Foster Care System.

For a very long time, relatives of children have played an important role in providing care for children when parents were unable or unwilling to do so. In North Carolina, over 200,000 children currently live with a relative; almost 98,000 of these relatives are grandparents, who are responsible for meeting the basic needs of their grandchildren. This practice of relatives raising children is knows as “kinship care.”

When circumstances don’t permit the safe return of a child to a parent, placing them with qualified relatives should be a priority. Especially since data suggests that children in foster care are more likely to suffer mental and emotional issues, drop out of school, or become involved in drugs and other crime, than do children placed with a relative. But did you know that a kinship caregiver may not be eligible for the same compensation or financial assistance as a foster caregiver?

Today I spent time with a retired grandmother, raising the 4 children of an incarcerated mother. Struggling to make ends meet, with little financial support, she has lost her car, her health insurance, and her credit, trying to provide necessities for the family. Her only assistance is $270 in monthly food vouchers for the 4 children COMBINED.

Although very few would argue the point that kinship care is preferable to foster care, North Carolina does not provide for kinship caregivers to receive foster care payments, unless they go through the same licensing procedure as a foster caregiver would. Now that’s just ridiculous to me. And what’s even more absurd, is that while we try to raise awareness, lobby for change, sign petitions, and hash this out with policymakers, innocent children are trapped between their welfare and bureaucracy.



The Birthing of a Dream

The Birthing of a Dream

Hello everyone! Welcome to coffee and conversation with 40+ and Fabulous, and the first of many blog posts that will keep us connected.

As I’m sitting here reflecting on the end of one year and the beginning of another, I have to acknowledge the deep sense of gratitude I’m feeling, at having realized my dream of publishing 40+ and Fabulous.

I imagine that every new author is filled with excitement and enthusiasm for writing their first book. And I can say with certainty that the trek to the finish line may be overwhelming and stressful at times, but seeing your name on that cover is a satisfying and rewarding feeling that makes it all worthwhile.

My biggest obstacle came in the form of making sure my business survived a weakening economy. Trying to weather the storm and keep the ship afloat was a major priority that left me with very little time, energy, or even desire to write.

It’s funny, but in retrospect what I thought to be a major roadblock to finishing my book, was actually a perfectly timed interruption, that would prevent me from making a few serious first time author mistakes.

Although completely distracted and seriously overwhelmed with life, I never stopped thinking about 40+ and Fabulous. It persisted as the first thought on my mind in the morning and the last thought on my mind at night. In my heart, I desperately wanted to finish what I had started, but the discipline and passion I had in the beginning just seemed to elude me now. No matter how hard I tried – I could not find it in me to write. Finally, I told myself I had given it my best effort, and gave myself permission to quit. Fortunately, my brain never got the memo and still morning and night, this book stayed on my mind.

You see, the stories of the women I had interviewed had nurtured and brought me laughter, healing, and inspiration during one of the most challenging periods of my life. Throughout the day, recalling an anecdote, piece of advice, or pearl of wisdom that had been shared was like food for my soul or tonic for my wounded spirit. What a selfish act to keep these wonderful stories to myself and what a dishonor to the women who had opened their hearts and shared them with me.  I needed to get over myself, quickly. This book has the power to affect the lives of thousands of women for the good, and I have a responsibility to make that happen.

“God, please restore the passion so that I can write again; so that I can fulfill this dream You placed in my heart.” But God’s instruction for me, was to start writing again, and the passion would follow. And that’s what I did.

I got busy and made a promise to myself that 2010 would not end without my book being finished. Although I cut it close, giving my mom an autographed copy of 40+ and Fabulous on Christmas day, was one of the happiest moments of my life. I’ve been dreaming of starting this journey with you; for us to engage and share a mutually nurturing relationship. I’m completely humbled that the journey can begin now. Welcome to 40+ and Fabulous!